Hello dear friend,
Greetings to you in Jesus name. Hope the posts that been shared are helpful in your walk with God and to build a good and healthy relationship with the people around you.
Today I would like to share few things on Marriage, especially on if your husband/wife is an unbeliever (Doesn’t have faith on God) or anything that makes you think that you both are not equally yoked. Marriage is designed by God to enjoy, help one another in everything, take care of one another as if he/she is the most precious gift from God, love one another the way he/she are and carry each other’s burdens no matter how painful and unbearable he/she is.
Once you are married to a person you have no tuning backs!! Till death departs you should stay together. YOU DON’T HAVE AN OPTION!!
It has become a culture and fashion that if you don’t like your spouse, you can divorce that person. The Bible says, God hate divorce Mal 2:16. It grieves Him, He is hurt but we take it lightly.
Our God loves restoration and reconciliation.
As you reading this, I pray that Holy Spirit will teach you and give your grace to live life pleasing to God in this area.
Here are the 7 keys to help your marriage:
- Do not marry a person of different faith:
One of the most cause of breakage and divisions marriage is, marrying a person of different faith. Initially it might seem to be like bed of roses everything seems to be smooth, understanding and co-operating but later it will be the cause of all problems.
The Bible says, do not equally yoked with an unbeliever (a person of different faith). 2 Cor 6:14
If you are not yet married, you have a chance to say ‘NO’ now instead of regretting later.
- Endure it:
If you are already married, ENDURE IT! Why? Because God’s doesn’t like it, people will look down on you, you will lose your reputation in your family, you will have no protection, you be alone and it leads to depression.
Don’t be a coward! You have chosen your life partner, now you don’t have a choice but to hold on to him/her and trusting God that everything will be alright and He is able to turn all things for your good and for His glory.
Fight a good fight of faith!
- Don’t be judgmental:
When you have decided to endure with that person for the rest of your life because he/she is a gift from God then don’t be judgmental.
Don’t try to find faults in everything that he does and says. Love and cherish your spouse. Instead of finding faults in your spouse try to find good things and celebrate those things.
Phil 4:8: Finally, brothers, whatever are true, whatever are noble, whatever are just, whatever are pure, whatever are lovely, whatever are of good report, if there is anything praise worthy think about such things.
When you change the way to you think about your spouse. When you change your thinking towards your spouse you will change in your talk and behavior towards that person then you will have a peaceful and blessed life.
- Keep your mouth zipped:
When you know your spouse is doing wrong you can tell once or twice, if he/she doesn’t seem like changing then the only thing you can do is talk to God about it and talk to your pastor/spiritual mentor.
When you realized that your spouse is not thoughtful about your words, if you tell him/her they feel irritated and have a chances of doing it more and you lose your respect.
When your spouse is upset and abusing you with words, please keep your lips zipped.
If you lose your control over words as your spouse did, you will end up with hurt, scars and divisions. But if you can be dumb and deaf at that situation, once your spouse is done you can explain clearly and with love.
Don’t try to prove to your spouse that you are right with your words, but let he/she see Jesus is you and let God testify about you to him/her.
- Treat your spouse better than yourself:
One of the cause for problem in marriage is that you try to find your spouse fault and he/she does the same. Don’t prove that you are right and always better than your spouse.
The secrete of good and great marriage is that you don’t live for your self-centered desires but you live to fulfill the dreams and desires of your spouse.
Phil 2:4: let each of you not look for your own interest but for the interest of others.
Do you your spouse what you expect your spouse do to you!
- Have fresh godly love for your spouse:
Love your spouse as God in Christ loved you.
Jesus should be the center of your marriage. Every time you see a weakness or fault in your spouse life, see that you too have few but, God is not condemning or punishing you but forgiving you and loving you every day with unlimited love.
He is giving you new mercies every day because you have messed up with the mercies He gave you yesterday. Lam 3:22-23
Jesus Christ the Son of God died for your wrong doing, He took it on Himself, now as a Child of God it’s your turn that you live and die for the spouse He gave you. John 3:16, 1 John 3:16.
- Thank God for your spouse:
Before I conclude, I want you to take a minute and thank God for your spouses, because God loves him/her, He cares for your spouse, He died for your spouse and shed His blood. Your spouse is precious in God’s sight.
God values your spouse, now you see your spouse the way God sees.
No matter how your marriage is, thank God for He knows it. Thank Him in advance that He is making your marriage more beautiful and blessed than you could ever thought of.
Thank God for all your tears have come to an end, thank God for all your hurt and pain have come to an end and thank God for the fresh love God is pouring in your hearts for each other.
I welcome you to the next phase of your marriage with God.
God bless you,
Jeevan & Leena
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